Trickin.doc

Below is a conversation I had with one of my best friends, about the rejuvenated phrase, “It ain’t trickin’ if you got it.” Shout outs to my homegirl for letting me post the conversation, despite the anonymity and the exclusion of certain pieces of information. P.S.: The post title, “trickin.doc,” is what I called the Microsoft Word file that I saved the conversation in.

Future Wife, Seriously. (9:44:39 PM): But see, it aint trickin if you got it

Ketchums (9:45:02 PM): nah, it’s trickin if you got it. because you’ve got to have it to trick.

Future Wife, Seriously. (9:45:07 PM): lol u know, honestly

Future Wife, Seriously. (9:45:08 PM): I STILL do not even know what that phrase means. I just heard it twice on 106 & Park today, so I used it. lol and of course, I’ve used it before then

Future Wife, Seriously. (9:45:30 PM): and no, I don’t regularly watch 106 & Park

Future Wife, Seriously. (9:45:34 PM): I was watching it to see someone I knew, that’s all

Future Wife, Seriously. (9:45:38 PM): but yes, I digress, the point is

Future Wife, Seriously. (9:45:41 PM): what does that mean, anyway

Ketchums (9:45:52 PM): lol, well you know what trickin’ is, right

Future Wife, Seriously. (9:46:27 PM): lol no, actually, I do not.

Future Wife, Seriously. (9:46:34 PM): *waits to be educated*

Ketchums (9:46:42 PM): a trick is a prostitute’s client. so the verb “trick” is used, actually, as both the customer and the the prostitute’s actions. the woman is usually referred to as “turning tricks,” while, if a dude is “trickin,” he’s wasting money to get a woman to sleep with him. the term isn’t limited to deliberate prostitution though – if a guy is just paying her way to a woman’s heart, so to speak, it’s often considered trickin also. like if he’s deliberately using his money – and nothing else, or minimizing his own qualities – to get the woman in bed, he’s tricking

Future Wife, Seriously. (9:50:27 PM): hmm, let me take a sec to get that

Future Wife, Seriously. (9:50:37 PM): If I am paying a prostitute to sleep with me, I am considered to be ‘trickin’, because it basically means I’m allowing myself to pay for sex. so I’m losing money on sex, assuming money is more valuable than sex

Future Wife, Seriously. (9:50:50 PM): I see.

Future Wife, Seriously. (9:50:55 PM): lol this conversation is hilarious, btw

Ketchums (9:52:35 PM): correct. and on both ends they lose – a woman, ideally, is supposed to value her body to where sex with her is a privilege, not something that can be bought. and sex is an issue of conquest with guys, so if a guy has to spend his hard-earned cash for sex, that implies that his game/looks/etc. aren’t enough

Future Wife, Seriously. (9:53:04 PM): I see!

Future Wife, Seriously. (9:53:06 PM): Then again, some dudes are just too busy to pursue

Future Wife, Seriously. (9:53:19 PM): however, I suppose if a man were hot enough, women would be throwing themselves at him, etc. there are some guys who say they don’t want the emotional drama, so they just pay for it. though, interesting, I see

Future Wife, Seriously. (9:53:30 PM): Well the guys I date spend money on me, though I don’t think they see it as trickin

Future Wife, Seriously. (9:53:38 PM): well, the (person who bought me an extremely expensive object) probably did. which is unfortunate; I still intend to pay him back. I haven’t yet, but I want to because, I just think that was too bad…I think he got it largely because he wanted me to like him, or he thought it was buying him brownie points

Future Wife, Seriously. (9:54:27 PM): however, I tend to date affluent men, and they way they spend money is not a big deal to them. even the young guys I’ve dated have been affluent; again, the money has not been an issue. which, I suppose, is what folks mean when they say, “it aint trickin if you got it.” because, if you aren’t losing anything by spending, it is not trickin

Future Wife, Seriously. (9:55:37 PM): ur not doing it because u think u have to; ur doing it because u enjoy the thrill of being a man who can do that, u probably like the power that conveys, or the edge u get by knowing u can spoil your woman

Future Wife, Seriously. (9:55:56 PM): i do find the power dynamics in relationships to be really interesting, though

Ketchums (9:56:13 PM): Future Wife, Seriously. ” (9:55:37 PM): ur not doing it because u think u have to; ur doing it because u enjoy the thrill of being a man who can do that, u probably like the power that conveys, or the edge u get by knowing u can spoil your woman

^^trickin’

Ketchums (9:57:02 PM): and it’s trickin’ if you’ve got it – because you’ve got to have it to trick. I can’t trick you out if I’m absolutely broke

Future Wife, Seriously. (9:57:12 PM): no no, what I’m saying is if your family owns peasants and entire villages, and you have several properties, and u basically help save people’s lives for a living, as just an example

Future Wife, Seriously. (9:57:38 PM): and u don’t really have trouble getting women…women like u, want u, etc. but u find one who u really like, and u spend money on her because u just enjoy spoiling her, u like the way that feels, then, how is that tricking? because u don’t need to do that

Ketchums (9:58:02 PM): nononono. to me, if a guy *genuinely* just wants to spend money on someone for no reason, then it’s not trickin’; but you will rarely, rarely, rarely find a guy who’s spending money on one specific woman like that who isn’t looking to get her in bed

Future Wife, Seriously. (10:00:09 PM): I agree. But use (my current bf), as an example, because the above example was about (my current bf). he likes spoiling me, but he doesn’t “need” to do it, in general.

Future Wife, Seriously. (10:01:41 PM): But if I am honest, there is this interesting exchange of sex and money in relationships. There was one time, when we went out to this really nice restaurant and I was all over him, basically, and he refused to let me pay for anything. even though I kept trying, all day. and he goes, well you can just pay me back later

Future Wife, Seriously. (10:11:10 PM): and it was a joke, but frankly, there is this really interesting exchange. not just with him, but in general, with men and women

  • Oh, it’s ALWAYS trickin… no matter how much you got. The phrase is just rich guys way of justifying it. Even if it’s not a “pay to hit” situation (a rapper. girls’ll do it for free but he’s only spendin that money on her cuz she let him hit).

    If he’s not smashin, not tryna smash, has no intentions of smashin, it’s not trickin. That’s just a friend.

    lol @ “and no, I don’t regularly watch 106 & Park”. You have to say that whenever you say you saw you watched 106 or saw something on 106.

  • trickin is trickin i got it but that dont mean u can have some

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